“Keep in touch, I’m really going to miss you.” I expect we have all heard these words many times during our lifetime. Leaving friends behind when we left for college, got married or moved away. As we have grown older, how many of those old friends, I wonder, do we still hear from?
When I was a young woman, I was friends with another young woman, who, like myself was a new mom. We were the best of friends for several years, sharing the ups and downs of new motherhood. We were each other’s support system through the teething, chicken pox and the first day of school. If my memory serves me correctly, our kids were around seven, when Patty’s husband got transferred across the country with his job. By the time the movers had loaded the last piece of furniture, tears flowed freely and hugs were plentiful. “Keep in touch, I’m really going to miss you.”
For a few years we did keep in touch, talking on the phone about once a month and, being the pre-email era, we actually wrote letters and sent pictures of our growing sons. However, as we juggled careers, family and life’s daily routine, our calls and correspondence became sporadic, dwindling down to an exchange of Christmas cards, and finally, sadly…nothing.
It’s been over thirty years since I last dialed Patty’s phone and heard, “The number you have reached has been disconnected.”
Over the years, I have made a lot of friends but I always had a special place in my heart for Patty and I have often wondered what happened to her. Even with the advent of computers, I have never been able to locate her. Now in our sixties with sons twice as old as when we became friends…life goes on.
If by some miracle, and I do believe in them, your name is Patty and you should read this and anything sounds remotely familiar, please…Get in touch, I still really miss you!
Email: barnyardsandbarnacles(at)live(dot)com
Thanks so much for sticking with me.
21 comments:
Three years ago I reconnected with high school friends I hadn't seen or talked to or heard from since the 1950s when we graduated. It was wonderful! A number of us have stayed in touch and I have so enjoyed that. Good to see you back, although I have enjoyed your other blog as well! Enjoy the rest of your week!
Sylvia
Sunny, your post has good timing, last evening after supper we were sitting watching tv and the phone rang, it was an old friend of ours who we hadn't heard from for 14 yrs.
(at that time he had moved away aned we also lost contact) well he was in town overnite, gave us a call and came over for a visit. There seemed to be no time between visits, it was a great evening, and I only hope you get 'that phone call' one day soon..it sure warms your heart!!
Nice to see you back. :-) I'm sure we all have friends like that. I know I do. But then some of those friends I have kept in touch with.
I hope Patty reads your post!
I hope you find your "Patty". It's not ME. You can go on People Finder - maybe that will help. Or just type her name on the internet and see what comes up. Good luck!
Nice to see you back. I have a friend like that, Sunny, and darn that women change their last names, I've never been able to find her either. I don't know why some people never leave my heart, even if decades go by. I hope you find Patty.
I don't have a long lost dear friend, but I understand the longing to find Patty. There are a couple of long time blogging friends that stopped blogging without warning, I often wonder about them!
Hope you find her, Sunny! Have you tried looking up her son's name?
This is the only good thing about facebook. I have found a guy that I really appreciated as a friend in high school and we found each other again through a fluke on the facebook. He is an old man now and me I am somewhat old too.
I think we all have friends that have disappeared out of our lives over the years. Living in Alaska seems to make the list that much longer. Not everyone can handle living so far away from their families or dealing with the cold. It would be so lovely to reconnet with all those that have been pulled in different directions over time. I hope you are able to find Patty someday.
Hopefully, Patty will contact you, Sunny... I'm surprised that you haven't been able to find her --now that the internet helps so much with this.. Have you tried Facebook? They say it is good to help people connect with friends from the past.
Good Luck... Old friends are friends for life..
Hugs,
Betsy
I definitely hope you and Patty can get back in touch with each other. It really is sad how many friends I've lost touch with over the years.
I hope Patty reads your blog today!!!!
Welcome back....I have missed you!
The longing to find past friends is shared. Good luck.
I hope your friend gets in touch with you soon.
You don't say where you first met? If it was in England, you could try Friends Reunited. Just google it.
Blessings, Star
About three years ago, we caught up with some old friends we hadn't seen for 26 years. It proved to be an awkward evening. So much water had passed under the bridge and the only common ground was way back in the past.
Sometimes it's for the best, to let things go.
Oh never give up.. Facebook may be just the ticket..who knows.
Good to see you back again:)
This happens, but don't give up. I found a friend through her sister who didn't move as much. Facebook could help and even typing her name into Google can give lots of clues too.
Hi.. Name not Patty.. but wouldn't mind if you will call me friend ;D
Have a blessed week!
Silver
Reflections
Hi Sunny, I found you via DJan. I could so relate to your post about your long lost friend Patty. I have four friends I wanted to reconnect with. Two I found. I found one of the women via her daughter on facebook. The other two, Judy and Linda, I still search for.
Growing older and spending more time with husbands, children, schedules, some times the distance breaks off our best intentions.
PS I really like the song CRAZY TRAIN on your music player...
Very interesting...There is a hidden message for those who are disconnected from their friends.
Please keep in touch with your friends!
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